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live like the rest of the world: a powerful argument, which is seldom used to a woman without effect. Lady Giddy was incessantly relating the occurrences of the town ; and Mrs. Gravely told her privately, with great tenderness, that it began to be publicly observed how much she overacted her part, and that the most of her acquaintance suspected her hope of procuring another husband to be the true ground of all that appearance of tenderness and piety.
All the officiousness of kindness and folly was busied to change her conduct. She was at one time alarmed with censure, and at another fired with praise. She was told of balls, where others shone only because she was absent; of new comedies to which all the town was crowding; and of many ingenious ironies, by which domestic diligence was made contemptible.
It is difficult for virtue to stand alone against fear on one side, and pleasure on the other; especially when no actual crime is proposed, and prudence itself can suggest many reasons for relaxation and indulgence. My mamma was at last persuaded to accompany Miss Giddy to a play. She was received with a boundless profusion of compliments, and attended home by a very fine gentleman. Next day she was with less difficulty prevailed on to play at Mrs. Gravely's, and came home gay and lively; for the distinctions that had been paid her awakened her vanity, and good luck had kept her principles of frugality from giving her disturbance. She now made her second entrance into the world, and her friends were sufficiently industrious to prevent any return to her former life; every morning brought messages of invitation, and every evening was passed in places of diversion, from which she for some time complained that she had rather be absent. In a short time she began to feel the happiness of acting without controul, of being unaccountable for her hours, her ex, penses, and her company; and learned by degrees to drop an expression of contempt or pity at the mention
of ladies whose husbands were suspected of restraining their pleasures or their play, and confessed that she loved to go and come as she pleased.
I was still favoured with some incidental precepts and transient endearments, and was now and then fondly kissed for smiling like my papa; but most part of her morning was spent in comparing the opinion of her maid and milliner, contriving some variation in her dress, visiting shops, and sending compliments; and the rest of the day was too short for visits, cards, plays, and concerts.
She now began to discover that it was impossible to educate children properly at home. Parents could not have them always in their sight; the society of servants was contagious; company produced boldness and spi. rits; emulation excited industry; and a large school was naturally the first step into the open world. A thousand other reasons she alledged, some of little force in themselves, but so well seconded by pleasure, vanity, and idleness, that they soon overcame all the remain ing principles of kindness and piety; and both I and my brother were dispatched to boarding-schools. .
How my mamma spent her time when she was thus disburthened, I am not able to inform you; but I have reason to believe that trifles and amusements took still faster hold of her heart. At first she visited me at school, and afterwards wrote to me; but in a short time, both her visits and her letters were at an end; and no other notice was taken of me than to remit money for my support.
When I came home at the vacation, I found my. self coldly received, with an observation.... 'That this girl will presently be a woman.' I was, after the usual stay, sent to school again, and overheard my mother say, as I was a-going, "Well, now I shall recover.' :'
In six months more I came again; and, with the usual childish alacrity, was running to my mother's embrace, when she stopt me with exclamations at the
suddenness and enormity of my growth, having, she said, never seen any body shoot up so much at my age. She was sure no other girls spread at that rate, and she hated to have children look like women before their time. I was disconcerted, and retired without hearing any thing more than...." Nay, if you are angry, Madam Steeple, you may walk off.'
When once the forms of civility are violated, there remains little hope of return to kindness or decency. My mamma made this appearance of resentment a reason for continuing her malignity; and poor Miss Maypole, for that was my appellation, was never men'tioned or spoken to but with some expression of anger or dislike.
She had yet the pleasure of dressing me like a child; and I know not when I should have been thought fit to change my habit, had I not been rescued by a maiden-sister of my father, who could not bear to see women in hanging sleeves, and therefore presented me with brocade for a gown, for which I should have thought myself under great obligations, had she not accompanied her favour with some hints that my mamma might now consider her age, and give me her ear-rings, which she had shown long enough in public places.
I now left the school, and came to live with my mamma, who considered me as an usurper that had seized the rights of a woman before they were due, and was pushing her down the precipice of age, that' I might reign without a superior. While I am thus beheld with jealousy and suspicion, you will readily believe that it is difficult to please. Every word and look is an offence. I never speak but I pretend to some qualities and excellencies which it is criminal to possess; if I am gay, she thinks it is early enough to coquette ; if I am grave, she hates a prude in bibs; if I venture into company, I am in haste for a husband; if I retire to my chamber, such matron-like ladies are
lovers oi contemplation. I am on one pretence or other generally excluded from her assemblies, nor am I ever suffered to visit at the same place with my mamma. Every one wonders why she does not bring Miss more into the world ; and when she comes honie in vapours, I am certain that she has heard either of my beauty or my wit, and expect nothing for the ensuing week but taunts and menaces, contradictions and reproaches.
Thus I live in a state of continual persecution, only because I was born ten years too soon, and cannot stop the course of nature or of time, but am unhappily a woman, before my mother can willingly cease to be a girl. I believe you would contribute to the happiness of many families; if, by any arguments or persuasions, you could make mothers ashamed of rivalling their children; if you could show them, that tho' they may refuse to grow wise, they must inevitably grow old; and that the proper solaces of age are not music and compliments, but wisdom and devotion; that those who are so unwilling to quit the world will soon be driven from it; and that it is therefore their interest to retire while there yet remain a few hours for nobler employments.
I am, &c.
No. LVI. SATURDAY, SEPTEMBER 89, 1750.
......... Valeat res ludicra, si me
Farewell the stage; for humbly I disclaim
NOTHING is more unpleasing than to find that offence has been received when none was intended, and that pain has been given to those who were not guilty of any provocation. As the great end of society is mutual beneficence, a good man is always uneasy when he finds himself acting in opposition to the purposes of life; because, though his conscience máy easily acquit hin of malice propense, of settled hatred, or contrivances of mischief, yet he seldom can be certain that he has not failed by negligence or indolence; that he has not been hindered from consulting the cominon interest by too much regard to his own eåse, or too much indifference to the happiness of others.
Nor is it necessary that, to feel this uneasiness, the mind should be extended to any great diffusion of generosity, or melted by uncommon warmth of benevolence; for that prudence which the world teaches, and a quick sensibility of private interest, will direct us to shun needless enmities; since there is no man whose kindness we may not some time , want, or by whose malice we may not some time suffer.
I have therefore frequently looked with wonder, and now and then with pity, at the thoughtlessness with which some alienate from themselves the affections of all whom chance, business, or inclination, brings in their way. When we see a man pursuing some dar. ling interest, without much regard to the opinion of the world, we justly consider him as corrupt and dan