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N° 95.

Tuesday, June 19.

Cura Leves loquuntur, Ingentes ftupent. Í JAVING read the two following Letters with

much Pleasure, I cannot but think the good Sense

of them will be as agreeable to the Town as any thing I could say either on the Topicks they treat of, or any other. They both allude to former Papers of mine, and I do not question but the first, which is upon inward Mourning, will be thought the Produ&tion of a Man who is well acquainted with the generous Earnings of Distress in a manly Temper, which is above the Reliet of Tears. A Speculation of my own on that Subject I shall defer till another Occasion.

THE second Letter is froin a Lady of a Mind as great as her Understanding. There is perhaps something in the Beginning of it which I ought in Modesty to conceal; but I have so much Efteem for this Correspondent, that I will not alter a Tittle of what she writes, tho' I am thus fcrupulous' at the Price of being ridiculous.

Mr. SPECTATOR, * I Was very well pleased with your Discourse upons

1 general Mourning, and should be obliged to you . if you would enter into the Matter more deeply, and

give us your Thoughts upon the common Sense the or

dinary People have of the Demonstrations of Grief, who « prescribe Rules and Fashions to the most folemn Affli. 's tion; such as the Loss of the nearest Relations and

dearest Friends. You cannot go to visit a fick Friend, .. but some irnpertinent Waiter about him observes the • Muscles of your Face, as strictly as if they were Prog• nofticks of his Death or Recovery. If he happens to be e taken from you, you are immediately surrounded wich « Numbers of these Spectators, who expect a melancholy * Shrug of your shoulders, a pathetical Shake of your • Head, and an expresive Distortion of your Face, to

: measure

• measure your Affection and Value for the Deceased : But o there is nothing, on these Occasions, so much in their

Favour as immoderate Weeping. As all their Passions • are superficial, they imagine the Seat of Love and Friend• ship to be placed visibly in the Eyes : They judge what 'Stock of Kindness you had for the Living, by the Quan. "tity of Tears you pour out for the Dead, so that it one • Body wants that Quantity of Salt-water another abounds ' with, he is in great Danger of being thought insensible

or ill-natured: They are Strangers to Friendship, whose « Grief happens not to be moist enough to wet such a

Parcel of Handkerchiefs. But Experience has told us nothing is co fallacious as this outward Sign of Sorrow;

and the natural History of our Bodies will teach us, that • this Flux of the Eyes, this Faculty of Weeping, is pecu.

liar only to fome Constitutions. We observe in the tenoder Bodies of Children, when crossed in their little Wills • and Expe&tations, how diffolvable they are into Tears : • If this were what Grief is in Men, Nature would not • be able to support them in the Excess of it for one Mo"mment. Add to this Observation, how quick is their * Transition from this Passion to that of their Joy. I I won't say we fee often, in the next tender Things to • Children, Tears shed without much Grieving. Thus it is • common to shed Tears without much Sorrow, and as ? common to suffer muchSorrow without shedding Tears, • Grief and Weeping are indeed frequent Companions :

But, I believe,never in their higheft Excesses. As Laughe

ter does not proceed from profound Joy, so neither does " Weeping from profound Sorrow. The Sorrow which

appears to easily at the Eyes, cannot have pierced deep

ly into the Heart. The Heart, diftended with Grief, • stops all the Passages for Tears or Lamentations

NOW, Sir, what I would incline you to in all • this, is, that you would inform the shallow Criticks . and Observers upon Sorrow, that true Affliction labours: " to be invisible, that it is a Stranger to Ceremony,' • and that it bears in its own Nature a Dignity much r above the little Circumstances which are affeated • under the Norion of Decency. You must know, Sir,

I have lately lost a dear Friend, for whom I have

• not yet shed a Tear, and for that Reason your Animad.. « versions on that Subject would be the more acceptable Eto, SIR, Your most humble Servant,

B. D.. Mr. SPECTATOR,

Jane the 15th. S A SI hope there are but few that have so little Gra.. "O titude as not to acknowledge the Usefulness of • your Pen, and to esteem it a publick Benefit; so I am • sensible, be that as it will, you must nevertheless find

the secret and incomparable Pleasure of doing Good, and • be a great Sharer in the Entertainment you give. I ac"knowledge our Sex to be much obliged, and I hope im..

proved by your Labours,, and even your Intentions " more particularly for our Service. If it be true, as 'tis

sometimes said, that our Sex have an Influence on the ' other, your Paper may be a yet more general Good.. " Your directing us to Reading is certainly the best Means ..to our Instruction; but I think, with you, Caution in

that Particular very useful, since the Improvement of our Understandings may, or may not, be of Service to . { us, according as it is managed. It has been thought « we are not generally so Ignorant as Ill-taught, or that

our Sex does so often want Wit, Judgment, or Know6. ledge, as the right Application of them: You are so .. well-bred, as to say your fair Readers are already deep.. B. ef Scholars than the Beaus, and that you could name ..some of them that talk much better than several Gentle-. 6.men that make a Figure at Will's: This may possibly 6. be, and no great Compliment, in my Opinion, even “ supposing your Comparison to reach Tom's and the . « Grecian : Sure you are too wile to think That a real Com. .&. mendation of a Woman. Were it not rather to be 6. Wilhed we improyed in our own Sphere, and approved « our selves better. Daughters, Wives, Mothers, and 6. Friends?

Ican't but agree with the Judicious Trader in Cheap. 6. fide , (though I am not at all prejudiced in his Favour) in 6. recommending the Study of Arithmetick; and must dis“sent-even from the Authority which you mention, when suit advises the making our Sex Scholars, Indeed a little

more

"more Philosophy, in order to the subduing our Passions :

to our Realon, might be sometimes serviceable, and a ". Treatise of that Nature I should approve of, even in ex.. • change for Theodosius, or the Force of Love; but as I well I know you want not Hints, I will proceed no further Sithan to recommend the Bishop of Cambray's Education r of a Daughter, as 'tis translated into the only Language 6- I have any Knowledge of, tho' perhaps very much to

its Disadvantage. I have heard it objected against that: • Piece, that its Instructions are not of general Use, but 6- only fitted for a great Lady; but I confess I am not of: • that Opinion; for I don't remember that there are any • Rules laid down for the Expences of a Woman in which • Particular only I think a Gèntlewoman ought to differ • from a Lady of the best Fortune, or highest Quality, and (not in their Principles of Justice, Gratitude, Sincerity, « Prudence, or Modestý. I ought perhaps to make an A. s-pology for this long Épifle; but as I rather believe you

a Friend to Sincerity, than Ceremony, shall only assure you I am, SIR, Your most Humble Servant.. .

ANABELLA..

N 96. Wednesday, June 20.

- Amicum

Mancipium domino, & frugi.

Hor, Mr. SPECTATOR,

T Have frequently read your Discourse upon Servants, 6 · and, as I am one my self, have been much offen.

ded, that in that Variety of Forms wherein you • considered the Bad, you found no Place to mention the • Good. There is however one Observation of yours I ? approve, which is, That there are Men of Wit and • good Senre among all Orders of Men, and that Servants 6-report most of the Good or Ill which is spoken of their

Masters,

Masters. That there are Men of Sense who live in Servitude, I have the Vanity to say I have felt to my woful Experience. You attribute very justly the Source of

our general Iniquiry to Board-Wages, and the Manner * of living out of a domestick Way : But I cannot give

you my Thoughts on this Subject any Way so well, as " by a short account of my own Life to this the Forty • fifth year of my Age; that is to say, from my being • 'first a Foot-boy at fourteen, to my present Station of a • Nobleman's Porter in the Year ofiny Age above-mentioned.

'KNOW then, that my Father was a poor Tenant to - the Family of Sir Stephen Rackrent : Sir Stephen put me • to School, or rather made me follow his Son Harry to . School, from my Ninth Year; and there, tho' Sir Ste

phen paid something for my Learning, I was used like

a Servant, and was forced to get what Scraps of Learn' ing I could by my own Industry, for the School-master • took very little Norice of me. My young Mafter was a « Lad of very sprightly Parts; and my being constantly . about him, and loving him, was no small Advantage to . me. My Master loved me extreamly, and has often « been whipped for not keeping me at a Distance. He « used always to say, That when he came to his Estate I • Mould have a Lease of my Father's Tenement for no' thing. I came up to Town with him to Westminster • School; at which time he taught me at Night all he • learnt, and put me to find our Words in the Di&ionary • when he was about his Exercise. It was the Will of ' Providence that Master Harry was taken very ill of a Fe. * ver, of which he died within Ten Days after bis first fall. ring sick. Here was the first Sorrow I ever knew; and I « afliire you, Mr. SPECTATOR, I remember the beau• tiful Action of the sweet Youth in his Fever, as fresh • as if it were Yesterday. If he wanted any thing, it • must be given him by Tom: When I let any thing fall • through the Grief I was under, he would cry, Do not • beat the poor Boy: Give him some more Julep for: * me, no Body else shall give it me. He would strive « to hide his being so bad, when he saw I could not • bear his being in so much Danger, and comforted me, • saying, Tom, Tom, have a good Heart. When I

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