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· NOTHING recommends a Man more to the female Sex than Courage ; whether it be that they are pleased to see one who is a Terror to others fall like a Slave at their Feet, or that this Quality supplies their own principal Defeet, in guarding them from Insults, and avenging their Quarrels, or that Courage is a natural Indication of a strong and sprightly Conftitution. On the other Side, nothing makes a Woman more efteemed by the opposite Sex than Chastity; whether it be that we always prize those most who are hardest to come at, or that nothing besides Chaftity, with its collateral Attendants, Truth, Fidelity, and Constancy, gives the Man a Property in the Person he loves, and consequently endears her to him above all things.
I am very much pleased with a Passage in the Inscription on a Monument erected in Westminster Abby to the late Duke and Dutchess of Newcastle : “Her Name was • Margaret Lucas, youngest Sister to the Lord Lucas of • Colchester; a noble Family, for all the Brothers were valio • ant, and all the Sisters virtuous.
IN Books of Chivalry, where the Point of Honour is Atrained to Madness, the whole Story runs on Chaftity and Courage. The Damfel is mounted on a white Palfry, as an Emblem of her Innocence; and, to avoid Scandal, must have a Dwarf for her Page. She is not to think of a Man, till some Misfortune has brought a Knight-Errant to her Relief. The Knight falls in Love, and did not Gratitude reftrain her from murdering her Deliverer, would die at her Feer by her Disdain, However, he must waste many Years in the Defart, before her Virgin Heart can think of a Surrender. The Knight goes off, attacks every thing he meets that is bigger and tronger than himself,' seeks all Opportunities of being knocked on the Head, and after seven Years Rambling returns to his Miftress, whose Chastity has been attacked in the mean time by Giants and Tyrants, and undergone as many Tryals as her Lover's Valour,
IN Spain, where there are still great Remains of this romantick Humour, it is a transporting Favour for a Lady to cast an accidental Glance on her Lover from a Window, th@' it be two or three Stories high; as it is · Vol. II,
usual for the Lover to assere his Passion for his Mistress, in single Combat with a mad Bull.
Î HE great Violation of the Point' of Honour from Man to Man, is giving the Lie. One may tell another he whores, drinks, blafphemes, and it may pass unresented; but to say he lies, tho’ but in jeft, is an Affront that“nothing but Blood can expiate. The Reason perhaps may be, because no other Vice implies a want of Courage fo much as the making of a Lie; and therefore telling'a Man he lies, is touching him in the most sensible Part of Hơnour, and indirectly calling him a Coward. I cannot omit under this Head what Herodotus tells us of the ancient Persians, That from the Age of five Years to twenty they instruct their Sons only in three things, to manage the Horse, to make use of the Bow, and to speak Truth.
THE placing the Point of Honour in this false kind of Courage, has given Occasion to the very refuse of Mankind, who have neither Virtue nor common Sense, to set up for Men of Honour. An English Peer, who has not been long dead, used to tell a pleasant Story of a French Gentleman that visited him early one Morning at Paris, and after great Professions of Respect, let him know that he had it in his power to oblige him ; which in short, 2. mounted to this, that he believed he could tell his Lord. Thip the Person's Name' who justled him as he came out from the Opera ; but before he would proceed, he begged his Lordship that he would not deny him the Honour of miaking him his Second. The English Lord to avoid being drawn into a very foolish Affair, told him that he was under Engageinents for his two next Dúels to a Couple of particular Friends. Upon which the Gentleman immediately withdrew, hoping his Lordship would not take it ill if he medled no farther in an Affair from whence he himself was to receive no Advantage.
THE beating down this false Notion of Honour, in fo vain and lively a People as those of France, is deservedly looked upon as one of the most glorious Parts of their préfent King's Reign. It is pity but the Punishment of these mischievous Notions fhould have in it fome particular Circumftances of Shame and Infamy; that those who are Slaves to them may fee, that instead of advancing their Reputations, they lead them to Ignominy and Dishonour.
DEATH is not sufficient to deter Men who make it theit Glory to defpife it ; but if every one that fought a Duel were to stand in the Pillory, it would quickly lessen the Number of these imaginary Men of Honour, and put an End to fo absurd a Practice,
WHEN Honour is a Support to virtuous Principles, and runs parallel with the Laws of God and our Country, it cannot be too much cherished and encouraged : But when the Dictates of Honour are contrary to those of Religion and Equity, they are the greatest Depravations of human Nature, by giving wrong Ambitions and falle Ideas of what is good and laudable; and should therefore be exploded by all Governments, and driven out as the Bane and Plague of human Society.
Monday, June 25.
Nil ego contulerim jucundo fanus amico. Hor,
Man advanced in Years that thinks fit to look back upon his former Life, and calls that only
Life which was passed with Satisfaction and Enjoyment, excluding all Parts which were not pleasant to him, will find himself very young, if not in his Infancy. Sickness, ill Huinour, and Idleners, will have robbed him of a great Share of that Space we ordinarily call our Life. It is therefore the Duty of every Man that would be true to himself, to obtain, if possible, a Disposition to be pleased, and place himself in a constant Aptitude for the Satisfactions of his Being. Instead of this, you hardly see a Man who is not uneasy in Proportton to his Advancement in the Arts of Life. An affe&ed Delicacy is the common Improvement we meet with in those who pretend to be refined above others: They do not aim ac true Pleasures themselves, but turn their Thoughts upon observing the false Pleasures of other Men. Such People are Valetudinarians in Society, and they should no more come into Company than a fick Man lhould come into the Air : If a Man is too weak to bear what is a Refreshment to Men in Health, he mult till keep his D 2
Chamber. When any one in Sir ROGER's Company complains he is out of Order, he immediately calls for some Posset-Drink for him ; for which Reason that sort of People who are ever bewailing their Constitution in other Places, are the Chearfullest imaginable when he is present,
IT is a wonderful thing that so many, and they not reckoned absurd, shall entertain those with whom they converse by giving them the History of their Pains and Aches; and imagine such Narrations their Quota of the Conversation. This is of all other the meanest Help to Discourse, and a Man must not think at all, or think himself very insignificant, when he finds an Account of his Head-ach answered by another's asking what News in the last Mail? Mutual good Humour is a Dress we ought to appear in where-ever we meet, and we should make no Mention of what concerns our felves, without it be of Matters wherein our Friends ought to rejoyce : But indeed there are Crowds of People who put themselves in no Method of pleasing themselves or others; such are those whom we usually call indolent Persons. Indolence is, methinks, an intermediate State between Pleasure and Pain, and very much unbecoming any Part of our Life after we are out of the Nurse's Arms. Such an Aversion to Labour creates a constant Weariness, and one would think should make Existence it self a Burthen. The indolent Man descends from the Dignity of his Nature, and makes that Being which was Rational meerly Vegetative: His Life conlifts only in the meer Encrease and Decay of a Body, which, with relation to the rest of the World, might as well have been uninformed, as the Habitation of a reasonable Mind. "
OF this kind is the Life of that extraordinary Couple Harry Tersett and his Lady. Harry was in the Days of his Celibacy one of those pert Creatures who have much Vivacity and little Understanding; Mrs. Rebecca Quickly, whom he married, had all that the Fire of Youth and a lively Manner could do towards making an agreeable Woman. These two People of seeming Merit fell into each other's Arms; and Passion being sated, and no Reason or good Sense in either to succeed it, their Life is now at a Stand; their Meals are insipid, and their Time tedious; their Fortune has placed them above Care, and their Loss
of Tafte reduced them below Diversion. When we talk of these as Instances of Inexistence, we do not mean, that in order to live it is necessary we should always be in jovial Crews, or crowned with Chaplets of Roses, as the merrow Fellows among the Ancients are described; but it is intended by considering these Con traries to Pleasure, Indolence, and too much Delicacy, to shew that it is Prudence to preserve a Disposition in our selves to receive a certain Delight in all we hear and see.
THIS portable Quality of good Humour seasons all the Parts and Occurrences we meet with, in such a manner, that there are no Moments loft, but they all pass with so much Satisfa&tion, that the heaviest of Loads, (when it is a Load) that of Time, is never felt by us. Varilas has this Quality to the highest Perfection, and communicates it where-ever he appears: The Sad, the Merry, the Severe, the Melancholy, shew a new Chear. fulness when he comes amongst them. At the same time no one can repeat any thing that Varilas has ever said that deserves Repetition, but the Man has that in. nate Goodness of Temper, that he is welcome to every Body, because every Man thinks he is so to him. He does not seem to contribute any thing to the Mirth of the Company; and yet upon Reflection you find it all happened by his being there. I thought it was whimfically said of a Gentleman, That if varilas had Wit, it would be the best Vit in the World. It is certain; when a well-corrected lively Imagination and good Breeding are added to a sweet Disposition, they qualify it to be one of the greatest Blessings, as well as Pleasures of Life.
MEN would come into Company with ten times the Pleasure they do, if they were sure of hearing nothing which would shock them, as well as expe&ed what would please them. When we know every Person that is spoken of is represented by one who has no ill Will, and every thing that is mentioned described by one that is apt to set it in the best Light, the Entertainment must be delicate, because the Cook has nothing brought to. his Hand but what is the most excellent in its Kind. Boautiful Piatures are the Entertainments of pure Minds,