Manners

Excerpt from Manners

"Good manners are a sign of charity toward our fellowmen, part of our duty to our neighbour, and also a sign of self-respect." - Lord Rosebery.

The very essence of good manners is self-possession, and self-possession is another name for self-forgetfulness. Gentility is neither in birth, manner, nor fashion, but in the mind. A high sense of honour, a determination never to take a mean advantage of another, and an adherence to truth, delicacy, and politeness toward those with whom one may have dealings, are the essential and distinguishing characteristics of a gentleman.

Quietness in all things is an essential element in a well-bred person. He shuns all outward display of his personality; he cares not to be seen or heard; he eschews noisy and grandiloquent talk; he avoids showy and noticeable costumes. His voice is low, his words simple, and his actions grave. He holds himself habitually under restraint; his words rarely seem to vibrate with emotion.

Habits are said to be good or bad as the result of actions that are right or wrong. A man of good habits is one who has for so long a time practised right thinking, speaking, and doing, that he acts properly from force of habit.

Good manners are not to be put on for particular occasions, like fine clothes, but should be one's second nature. The simpler and more easy and unconstrained a man's manners, the more he will impress people with his good breeding. Affectation is one of the brazen marks of vulgarity.

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